How often will my baby breastfeed?

Breastfeeding is one of the most natural yet challenging experiences for new parents. As a parent, you might often wonder about the right breastfeeding frequency during your baby's development. Understanding when and how often they may feed, can improve your experience and strengthen the bond with your little one. In this guide, we will break down typical breastfeeding patterns by some age and key milestones.

So, what is normal breastfeeding?

Newborn Stage (0-2 Months)

Example of newborn feeding pattern (more than average which is common early on).

In the first few weeks of life, your newborn will likely breastfeed very frequently. Most newborns will feed every 1.5 to 3 hours, totalling about 8 to 12 times a day.

This frequent feeding is crucial for establishing your milk supply and ensuring your baby receives adequate nutrition. With tiny stomachs, newborns require smaller amounts of milk more frequently.

Having said this, in the early days it is common to see more than 12 feeds on some days. This is OK, and will slow down soon enough. Cluster feeding in the evening (the 'witching hour') is normal.

Watch for your baby’s hunger cues such as finger sucking, rooting or turning their head toward your chest. They may want to feed again at any point since the last feed - it doesn't have to be a minimum time.

Embrace these early days by relaxing and savoring these quiet moments. While it may feel overwhelming at first, you will soon develop a rhythm that suits both you and your baby.

Unsettled Baby at certain ages

Growth spurts/developmental can feel like a whirlwind for breastfeeding mothers. These typically occur around 3 weeks, 3 months, and 6 months but can vary individually.

Example of feeding during unsettled times.

During growth spurts, expect your baby to want to breastfeed more often, sometimes every hour or even more frequently. This phase, often referred to as "cluster feeding," is essential as it increases your milk supply to meet your baby's growing demands, as well as meeting their current need for increased comfort.

This time may also come with increased frustration and unsettled behaviour.

Keep in mind that this increased frequency is usually temporary. It's important to listen to your baby's hunger cues and allow them to feed as needed, even if you feel tired. You may feel like you have no more milk to give - rest assured your breasts are built for this.

Starting Solids (Around 6 Months)

Introducing solid foods can begin significantly impact your breastfeeding schedule. Many parents begin to introduce solids around 6 months, which will start to reduce the number of breastfeeds over time.

Example of feeds. Green is first meals, pink is breastfeeds.

Breastfeeding should be complementary to solid foods rather than a replacement. For example, during the first few months of starting solids, breast milk will still provide about 50-70% of your baby’s overall nutrition until they are 12 months old. This will mean tht your baby still breastfeeds as much as they previously did, but over time you will see a gradual reduction.

Navigating breastfeeding during mealtimes is a learning curve. You'll need to respond to both your baby’s hunger and your daily routine. Many parents find starting with a breastfeed and then introducing foods the best way to go.

Returning to Work

Returning to work introduces different challenges, especially if you’re continuing to breastfeed. When transitioning back to work, you may need to start expressing milk ahead of time.

Example of feeds. Green is solids, pink is breastfeeds.

During this period, babies often breastfeed about 3 to 5 times a day, depending on how they adapt to the change, and what solids they are eating. While you are not with your baby, you can ensure you feed early in the morning, after work, and on weekends to maintain your connection.

During the transition time, your little one may 'reverse cycle'. This means they reverse their old feeding schedule, so night times are now prime feeding time, and they may wake up frequently for this (like in the example above). This sometimes evens out as they get used tot he new routine. They may also seem to cluster feed in the evening, so you cannot get anything done. This age often coincides with prime separation anxiety phase.

During your days off, you should be able to feed as normal, responsively. Your breasts will adjust to this difference.

Juggling work and breastfeeding can be overwhelming, but many mothers manage it successfully. Finding a routine that suits you and communicating your needs to your employer regarding break times for expressing milk can make all the difference.

Toddlerhood (1-2 Years plus)

Less breastfeeds overall (pink), more meals (green).

As your baby grows into a toddler, you will likely notice a decrease in breastfeeding frequency. On average, toddlers tend to feed about 4 to 6 times a day.

This shift often coincides with their growing independence and curiosity about solid foods. For instance, a toddler may seek breast milk for comfort after a fall or during times of stress, like visiting a new environment.

As they breastfeed less often, you might find your little one easily distracted during breastfeeding sessions. When your toddler is exploring, they may take a few sips and then want to play instead!

Occasionally you may feel like your toddler is feeding like a newborn again. This can feel difficult, but is usually paired with something new, or an illness etc. and will pass soon.

Embracing the Journey

Breastfeeding through various developmental milestones can be both a challenge and a rewarding journey. While the examples above are only an example, you can rest assured that whatever your situation, feeding responsively, when your baby/toddler asks, will always be the right thing to do.

Remember, every baby is unique and what matters most is meeting their needs while also cherishing your breastfeeding bond. Embrace this journey, and know that you are not alone.

As you embark on this adventure, seek support from fellow mothers at baby groups, healthcare professionals, and trusted resources.

Good luck, and enjoy the beautiful experience of breastfeeding!